Ithetha Ntoni Iphupha Nge-Anorexia?
Iphupha nge-anorexia, nangona lingabonakala lingamaphupha amabi, lihlala liyimfuziselo entsonkothileyo ebonisa iimeko zethu zangaphakathi, ubudlelwane nomzimba, ulawulo, ukuzixabisa, kunye nemfuneko yengqalelo okanye yokujongana neemvakalelo ezinzima. Alibonisi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuphazamiseka kokutya kwangempela, kodwa libonisa imeko yengqondo yomphuphi. Linokufuzisela ukungabikho kolawulo ebomini, ukusukela ukugqibelela, ukunganeliseki ngesiqu sakho, uloyiko lokugwetywa ngabanye, okanye umnqweno “wokuzihlambulula” kwinto esiyibona iyityhefu. Ukutolikwa kwe-anorexia ephupheni kuxhomekeke kwimingxuma emininzi ethambileyo kunye nemeko.
Izinto Ezintle Zokuphupha
- Ukusukela ulawulo: Inokufuzisela imfuneko enamandla yokubuyisela ulawulo kwindawo ethile yobomi ebonakala iphuma ezandleni. Oku ngumqondiso wokuba umphuphi unqwenela ukulawula ikamva lakhe.
- Ukuzilawula namandla entando: Kwiimeko ezingaqhelekanga, iphupha nge-anorexia linokuqaqambisa ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga kunye nokukwazi ukuzincama ekusukeleni injongo, nangona kungendlela egqithisileyo kwaye efuna ingqalelo.
- Utshintsho nokuhlanjululwa: Linokubonisa umnqweno ongaphantsi kwengqondo wokulahla imikhwa emidala, iimpembelelo ezimbi okanye ubudlelwane obuyityhefu, lifuzisela ukusukela “ukuhlanjululwa” kwangaphakathi kunye nesiqalo esitsha.
Izinto Ezimbi Zokuphupha
- Ukuzixabisa okuphantsi kunye neengxaki: Iphupha nge-anorexia lihlala libonisa imvakalelo enzulu yokungoneli, ukunganeliseki ngenkangeleko okanye impumelelo yomntu, kunye noloyiko lokugwetywa ngabanye.
- Ukungabikho kolawulo nokungakwazi ukwenza nto: Linokufuzisela imvakalelo yokuphulukana nolawulo lobomi bomntu, ukungakwazi ukwenza nto phambi kweemeko ezinzima okanye abantu, nto leyo ekhokelela ekufuneni ngokungxamisekileyo indawo apho umntu anokuziva enamandla.
- Ukunqamka nolonsolo: I-anorexia ephupheni inokubonisa ukuthambekela ekuzahlukaniseni nabanye, ukuphepha inkxaso nokuzivalela ngaphakathi ngenxa yoloyiko, ihlazo okanye imvakalelo yokungaqondwa.
- Ukuzitshabalalisa kokuziphatha: Kwiimeko ezixhalabisayo ngakumbi, inokubonisa iipatheni ezitshabalalisayo zokucinga okanye zokuziphatha ezitshabalalisa ngasese intlalo yomphuphi.
- Imfuneko yengqalelo: Iphupha nge-anorexia linokuba sisibongozo soncedo okanye umqondiso wokuba umphuphi uziva engahoywa kwaye unqwenela ukutsala ingqalelo kuye ngendlela enzima.
- Ukutsha nokudinwa: Linokufuzisela ukudinwa okugqithisileyo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni, imvakalelo yokuba “siyazitshabalalisa” ngenxa yabanye, singazihoyi iimfuno zethu.
Umeko Wephupha Unentsingiselo
- Xa wena unesifo se-anorexia ephupheni: Ukuba ephupheni uhlangabezana ne-anorexia, oku kunokuthetha ukuba uziva ungonelanga, ungaxatyiswa okanye ungenalo ulawulo kwindawo ethile yobomi. Oku kunokuba yingqokelela yokuzixabisa okuphantsi, ukusukela ukugqibelela okungenakufikelelwa, okanye imvakalelo yokuba kufuneka “uzihlambulule” kwinto ethile, ulahle umthwalo. Cinga apho ebomini bakho apho ungenalo khona amandla nokukwazi ukwenza izinto.
- Xa ubona omnye umntu esifa yi-anorexia ephupheni: Ukubona umntu onesifo se-anorexia ephupheni kunokufuzisela iinkxalabo zakho ngomntu osondeleyo obonakala “esiba mncane” ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, engazihoyi yena. Oku kunokuba yingqokelela yemeko apho umntu okungqongileyo ezibekela ityala kakhulu, ezirhoxisa okanye engakwazi ukwamkela uncedo. Ngenye indlela, oku kunokuba yingqokelela yoloyiko lwakho oluhambelana nolawulo okanye ukungamkelwa.
- Xa uzama ukunceda umntu one-anorexia: Ukuba ephupheni uzama ukunceda umntu onesifo se-anorexia, oku kunokubonisa imvakalelo yakho yoxanduva ngabanye okanye umnqweno wokulungisa imeko ethile enzima ebomini bakho xa uvukile. Oku kunokuthetha kwakhona ukuba uzama “ukondla” iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo ezingahoywanga okanye usukela ukuphilisa ubudlelwane obunzima, unikezela inkxaso nokuqonda.
Isishwankathelo Nokucamngca
Iphupha nge-anorexia ngumqondiso onamandla ovela kwingqondo engaphantsi, ukutsala ingqalelo kwiimfuno zakho zangaphakathi kunye neemvakalelo. Nokuba lifuzisela ulawulo, uloyiko, imvakalelo yokungaxatyiswa okanye ukusukela ukugqibelela, isoloko isimemo sokuzihlola ngokunzulu. Likukhuthaza ukuba ucinge ngento “eyondla” umphefumlo wakho, nento “emoyisayo”. Khumbula ukuba umzimba wakho, ingqondo kunye neemvakalelo zifuna ukutya okulinganiselayo – ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwesimboli – ukugcina impilo nentlalo-ntle. Ukuba elo phupha liyaphindaphindeka okanye livusa iimvakalelo ezinamandla, kufanelekile ukucinga ngokufuna inkxaso ekuhlalutyeni iimeko zakho zengqondo.